Think back to when you were a kid for a second.

Did you ever hear someone say they were being "bad" because they ate dessert?

Or maybe someone made a comment about needing to lose weight.

Maybe certain foods were completely off-limits, and you felt like you had to sneak them when nobody was looking.

It's funny how those little comments stick with us, isn't it?

And now that we're moms, we're the ones our kids are watching.

As a registered dietitian and mom of three, I think about this a LOT.

Because yes, I want my kids to grow up eating nutritious foods.

I want them to enjoy fruits, vegetables, and balanced meals.

But I ALSO want them to grow up enjoying birthday cake, ice cream, and pizza without feeling guilty.

Because healthy eating isn't about being perfect. And I don't want my kids growing up thinking it is.

Here's how I approach food and body image in our house, and a few simple things you can start doing with your family, too. 💛

Our Kids Learn More From Us Than We Think

Here's something I've realized since becoming a mom.

Kids are ALWAYS listening.

Even when you think they're not paying attention.

They hear us say things like:

"Ugh, I shouldn't have eaten that."

"I need to work out because I ate too much."

"I feel so fat today."

And while we might not think much about those comments, our kids are learning how to think about food and their bodies from us.

That's why I try to be intentional about how I talk about food in front of my kids.

I don't want them growing up thinking their worth has anything to do with what they weigh or what size clothes they wear.

I want them to understand that we take care of our bodies because we want to feel good, get stronger, and have energy to do the things we love.

Not because we're trying to punish ourselves for eating something.

1. Stop Labeling Foods as Good or Bad

This is one of the biggest things I encourage parents to work on.

Stop calling foods "good" or "bad."

Because when we label foods that way, kids can start connecting those labels to themselves.

If cookies are bad, does that mean they're being bad when they eat one?

Of course not.

Instead, I like talking about what different foods give our bodies.

For example:

• Eggs give us protein.

• Berries give us fiber and vitamins.

• Chicken provides protein that helps us grow.

• Avocados give us healthy fats.

And cookies?

They're delicious, and we can enjoy them, too.

Not every food needs to have some amazing nutritional benefit to belong in our lives.

Some foods nourish us with nutrients. Other foods are simply fun to eat. Both can fit.

2. Let Your Kids Enjoy Dessert Without Guilt

I'm a dietitian, and I eat dessert pretty much every day.

Yep.

I love chocolate.

And if we're having birthday cake, you better believe I'm having a slice.

I don't want my kids watching me avoid foods I love because I'm worried about calories.

And I definitely don't want them hearing me say I need to "earn" dessert.

Because food isn't something we have to earn.

It's something we need, and something we can enjoy.

And here's another thing.

You don't have to make dessert a reward for finishing vegetables.

Think about how often kids hear:

"Eat your broccoli, and then you can have ice cream."

Now the broccoli becomes the thing they HAVE to eat to get the thing they really want.

Instead, you can serve treats without turning them into prizes.

That doesn't mean your kids get unlimited candy whenever they want.

You can still have routines and boundaries.

The goal is simply to avoid making dessert feel like some forbidden prize.

3. Stop Making Comments About Bodies

This one is so important.

And it's not just about what we say to our kids.

It's also about what we say about ourselves and other people.

Comments like:

"She looks so good now that she's lost weight."

"I wish my stomach was flatter."

"You're so skinny!"

Even comments that sound like compliments can teach kids that certain body types are more valuable than others.

Instead, try focusing on what our bodies can DO.

Maybe your child learned how to ride a bike.

Or they're getting stronger on the playground.

Or they ran around outside with their friends all afternoon.

Those are things worth celebrating.

And as moms, we can model that same mindset.

I want my kids to see me strength training because I love feeling strong.

Not because I'm trying to make up for something I ate.

4. Make Healthy Foods a Normal Part of Family Meals

Here's something I think we sometimes overcomplicate.

Teaching kids about nutrition doesn't require a big lesson every night at dinner.

You don't need to explain every vitamin or nutrient.

And you definitely don't need to make separate "healthy meals" for yourself.

Just make nutritious foods a normal part of what your family eats.

Serve fruit with breakfast.

Put vegetables on the dinner table.

Include protein-rich foods throughout the day.

And let your kids see YOU eating those foods, too.

Because when kids see fruits and vegetables as normal parts of meals, they're getting repeated chances to become familiar with them.

And please remember, frozen vegetables count.

Bagged salads count.

And simple meals absolutely count.

You don't need to spend an hour cooking to teach your kids healthy habits.

5. Don't Pressure Your Kids to Clean Their Plates

How many of us grew up hearing:

"You can't leave the table until you finish your food."

Or:

"Just three more bites."

I know parents usually say these things because they want their kids to eat enough.

But here's something important.

Kids are learning how to recognize when they're hungry and when they're full.

And constantly telling them exactly how much to eat can make it harder for them to pay attention to those feelings.

One approach I like is for parents to decide what foods are offered and when meals happen.

Then kids get to decide whether and how much they eat from what's offered.

That doesn't mean there are no boundaries.

It just means we're giving kids room to learn about their own hunger and fullness.

And if they're not hungry for more?

They don't need to finish every bite to make us happy.

6. Stop Making New Foods a Battle

As a mom of three, I know how frustrating picky eating can be.

You make dinner.

Put it on the table.

And your child takes one look and says, "I don't like that!"

Before even trying it. 😅

But pressuring kids to eat something usually doesn't make dinner more enjoyable.

Instead, I try to make new foods feel less overwhelming.

One thing that helps is serving something familiar alongside something new.

Maybe we're having chicken, sweet potatoes, and a new vegetable.

My kids know they like the chicken and sweet potatoes.

So the new vegetable doesn't have to become a huge battle.

And it's okay if they don't try it the first time.

Or the fifth time.

Keep offering opportunities without making every meal a test.

7. Let Your Kids See You Take Care of Yourself

This is probably one of the biggest things I want my kids to learn.

Taking care of your body is something you do because you value yourself.

Not because you hate the way you look.

I want my kids to see me eating balanced meals.

Going for walks.

Strength training.

Drinking water.

And also eating pizza, having dessert, and enjoying family meals.

Because those things can all be part of a healthy life.

And I want them to understand that being healthy doesn't mean being perfect.

It means building habits that help you feel good and enjoy your life.

You Don't Have to Get It Right Every Time

Here's what I want every mom reading this to remember.

You don't have to say the perfect thing every time.

Maybe you grew up with a lot of food rules.

Maybe you still catch yourself saying things about your body that you wish you didn't.

That doesn't mean you can't change how you approach food with your kids.

Start paying attention to the little things.

How you talk about dessert.

How you respond when your child doesn't finish their plate.

How you talk about your own body.

And when you notice something you want to change, start there.

Because raising kids with a healthy relationship with food isn't about perfect parenting. It's about what we model consistently.

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